Shuttle diplomacy is when negotiations are conducted by a mediator who facilitates communication between two parties, usually leaders of different countries, who are reluctant to hold direct discussions. And that reluctance is often as a result of a high degree of distrust that has developed between them.
Unfortunately, in this world we are currently living in, parties of different cultures and languages are often reluctant, or fearful, of holding direct discussions, or making any effort to understand one another whatsoever.
One of the greatest joys in my 16 years as an expat in Costa Rica has been sharing the experience with others. I rarely have a negative thing to say about Costa Rica. And when I do, it’s usually said in a humorous spirit. The things that have annoyed me, I usually try to shrug off with a smile and not take them, or my annoyance, too seriously.
That doesn’t mean that life in Costa Rica has always been just peachy for me. Oh for sure I’ve had more than my fair share of ups and downs here. But I don’t let the downs color my overall outlook about the place. The picture I always try to paint for others is one of wonder. Costa Rica is a wonderful place to live. There’s just no doubting that.
So, why spread a negative message? I mean if you don’t like the place, then the decision to move on is probably your best option. But if you do, then tell others about it! Exercise expat shuttle diplomacy by offering to be the bridge between their culture and this new and mysterious one that they’re surely to be a bit curious about. If they ask you if the natives are restless, tell them, hell yes…they party all night, every night, because they are just that damn happy!
The world will become a more unified place when diverse cultures have a better understanding of one another. It will happen when we all come to the Big US realization that we’re really all after the same basic things…a life of dignity, peace, health, love and happiness…right? The differences between cultures should not be a wedge that separates them, but a magnet that draws opposites together.
You can be that magnetic force. To do that you have to immerse. You have to know the culture that you have assimilated yourself in and know it well. That will take some effort on your part. Ticos bear no real responsibility to share their culture with you. They will, just because that’s the way they are. But if you want a richer and fuller experience of it, you have to ask them. You have to seek it out. You have to place yourself in awkward situations. Oh yes, you will experience some embarrassing moments, when you say or do the wrong thing. But those are learning opportunities and memories that will make you smile in the years to come.
And what you learn from that immersion experience you should share with those of your home culture. Let them know how these “others” live. It will be an eye opening experience for them, just as it was for you. When you invite them down, don’t shelter them from it (the foreign culture, that is). No, rather expose them to it, even if that has the potential of making them feel a bit uncomfortable, like you once were. It will be good for them, as it was for you. Of course, help them through it…a little. It’ll also be a great opportunity to get a few laughs at their expense…no real harm in that!
In the same light, when you make those trips back to your home country, remember to carry along tokens of your adopted country and culture. Don’t be afraid to say “pura vida” and then take advantage of the opportunity to explain what that means. Cook up some gallo pinto for the family back home. Tell them stories from the deep dark jungle. I wrote a series long ago called Tall-Tales of Costa Rica Guy, in which I share sometimes slightly embellished stories of my adventures in Costa Rica. Starting a blog is a great way to share your experiences.
Have fun with it!
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